Earlier today I was listening to Latino 96.3 during the Family Feud session. The whole story of the caller hit me. A guy called to ask Raq-C (the host) if she could be the intermediate for him and his sister who were not on speaking terms over something small. So the jist of the situation was that the sister wanted to hold Thanksgiving at her new home with her husband and daughter but tradition was that it was always held at their parent's house. The brother didn't want to break tradition and the sister didn't see it that way. They began to bicker back and forth and ended up cursing at each other and made the situation worse.
I'm on the fence with the situation. The bickering and cursing back and forth reminded me so much of me and my brother Jayme but the situation was more dead on with both my brother's families. However, our situation was a bit different. My older brother's wife wanted to have Thanksgiving at her house one year and I associate her with the sister from the caller. It's understandable to want to hold it at your own home and cater to others, in a way it is breaking tradition but tradition is what you make of it. So long as the whole family is together, then it shouldn't matter where it is held. So that's one point for the sisters! LOL
In our situation, I made it very clear that it was to be held at my mother's house due to the circumstances. My mother didn't have much time left. She was sick and it took a lot out of her to make it out of the house. So for her sake, it was best to just keep with tradition and hold it at her house. I always wanted to make her last years with us as happy as possible and if that's what she wanted, then that's what she would get. Whoever didn't want to show up, didn't have to. Period. It did cause some some upsetting conversations or arguments but in the end, it all worked out.
I feel bad for the caller and his sister. Trying to reconcile with her and have her see the parent's side made the situation worse. It is not worth being mad over the holidays over a simple thing as location. However, not enough details were given to pick or choose sides. If you go through this, try not to fight. It's the holidays and those were not meant to be apart and mad. If your situation is closer to mine, then give your parents the joy of seeing you all reunited in your childhood home. Don't be selfish and give them what they want. It doesn't take much to make your parents happy! So have yourselves a wonderful Thanksgiving with your loved ones whether u keep with tradition or move it on to another location!